Our perspectives directly influence our emotions as well as our mental state of being. Keeping that in mind on this motivational Monday with the Dream M ā vyn we are going to discuss the topic of rejection.
The word itself is so off putting. Let's be honest it just sounds offensive. Seriously, even if you say it quietly in your head, it just sounds hurtful. Now say it out loud, hear it, rolling off your tongue in conviction. RE-JEC-TION...it just feels like someone is doing something wrong to you, intentionally and that is never a good feeling.
Like in my head I can picture some little kids in the first or second grade. There would always be that one kid who just had to be the prankster, the one who needed attention. Remember that kid, you see them, the one who thought it was hilarious to pull the chair out from behind other kids right as they were going to sit down. Then stand and watch as the unknowing victim would stumble at first, then loose their footing and fall to the ground really hard in front of everyone. In defeat, they would just sit on the floor in embarrassment, wanting to stand back up but feeling overwhelmed about the fact that they fell in front of everyone.
That was dramatic, but that is the vision some of us still get as adults when we come in to contact with the potential of being rejected. There is this small eerie feeling that comes up in the pit of your stomach, whenever you feel like you haven't been heard. We often end up with feelings of frustration and anger when we think there is even the smallest potential that someone is going to oppose our idea. Rejection is such a strong deterrent and I agree that it does sound harsh and the effects of not being received is frustrating. But you know what, perceptions at times can be deceiving.
The actual definition of rejection is the dismissal or refusal of a project proposal or idea. That's it, it just means someone told you that they are not interested in a project proposal or an idea that you presented. When rejected, we typically get stuck on the declined, turned down, dismissed aspect... These words, they sound so bad but honestly when we think about what they actually are and what they mean they're not as scary as a lot of us perceive them to be.
Maybe you initiated an idea and you're excited about it and you wanted to share your idea with someone who is actually unprepared, unable to support you and unqualified to even see the potential of your idea or project. Does that mean that your idea is invalid, less than, or lacking the potential to actually work?... NO. It just means that the person who you brought your idea to was in capable at their current capacity to see your full potential and the full potential of your idea.
Fear of rejection often stifles so many of us from doing, being and going where we know we've been shaped to adventure. Often times people are reluctant to do something that their spirit is confirming for them because they fear rejection. So let's flip our understanding and our conscious approach to what rejection really is.
Let's do that today on this Motivational Monday with the Dream Māvyn! Today we are going to internalize our own possibilities and be cognizant of the differences of others and their capacity to see our dreams and our internal possibilities from a perspective that aligns with what we know to be our own truth.
So today let's start fresh when we approach rejection let us do it with opened eyes and consider this altered definition of rejection. "Rejection may actually be the redirection you need to point you directly in the direction of your dreams"...
Maybe all you need is a clear vision and the right perspective in order to see your idea, project, passion, your calling or your dream come to fruition. We also need to be mindful of who we are sharing our hopes and dreams with and also at what stage we are bringing others in to the fold to see the ideas that have been placed in us.
Just as ideas goals and dreams have stages of maturity, progression and development, so do people. You may be un-intentionally sabotaging yourself and your mental well-being by prematurely presenting ideas that are under developed and under prepared. Resulting in others' inability to see you and your dream at the optimal level and at its full potential.
In short, you may need to be analyzing the stage of others when communicating the things and ideas that you have stirring up and developing within you. You can't share your dreams, your ideas, your gifts, and sometimes even your talents with just anyone.
Be mindful of yourself. Set yourself up for extreme opportunities of success. And let me be clear, constructive and effective criticism of our ideas or desires or dreams is not the same as rejection. Not all criticism is intended to hurt you. Criticism is also another tactic to shape and further refine and define who you are and what you are producing.
So as we think through our next steps and how we are going to encourage and power and elevate one another let us not cower from fear of rejection. To be honest everyone is not going to see your potential and that is OK, so gravitate towards those who see you, support you, and want to help uplift and propel you and your dreams right alongside you.
- Gaybrielle LeAnn Gant